Warren Buffett is successful for investing and building
long-term businesses. Bill Gates is successful for creating a
software empire that has changed the way we use computers. Gandhi
was successful for leading India into independence from the
British.
Success comes in many ways and forms. What’s interesting is that
most successful people have very similar qualities.
When I read lists such as this one, I want to see how I stack up
against it. It feels good when I recognize qualities of success in
myself. For the qualities that I don’t have, lists like these tell
me what I need to work on.
I have enjoyed and benefited much from these types of lists and
that’s why I decided to organize all my research, observations and
experience and compile this comprehensive list.
If you want to achieve your life’s dream and be wildly
successful, you need to model yourself after people who are living
their dream. The more qualities you have in common, the higher your
chances for being wildly successful.
We all start out in life as being quite ordinary and many remain
that way. The few who have become extraordinary have these
qualities (no specific order):
1. Definite Aim, Vision and Purpose – Successful people
constantly seek clarity in their lives. They know what they want
and they follow their own dream. Vague desires and beliefs lead to
vague outcomes. It is this sense of direction that gives them the
staying power to stick to their goals and achieve their dreams.
2. Expertise and Excellence – No matter what they pursue, they
become the best in their field. There is no job too small and
successful people strive for excellence. They pursue mastery and
understand that money is a by-product of the value they offer.
3. Focused – People who experience success know how to
concentrate. They realize that they cannot do everything and they
focus on the activities that will give them the highest return on
the goals they want to achieve. They don’t believe in the hype of
multi-tasking and they know that the fastest way to finish your
to-do’s is doing them one at a time.
4. Positive Attitude and Perseverance – Extraordinary people
have realistic optimism. Realistic because they take action and
optimistic because no matter what the result may be, they believe
their success is inevitable. They believe that like a child
learning to walk, they need to take action first and then modify
the action according to the feedback that they get. This positive
attitude allows them to persevere and be resilient when things
don’t go their way.
5. Flexible – One misconception that ordinary people have about
persevering is staying the course no matter what. This is true only
if the reason for pursuing your goal is still valid. Most
successful people became successful doing something different from
what they initially intended to do (i.e. Steve Jobs started with
computers, went into the animation and really made his comeback
with the iPod). This is normal because the world is always changing
and they know a lot more now than when they started. Successful
people know that if their reasons for doing what they are doing
changes, there is no point to continue.
6. Masters of Time – Successful people are successful because
they get a lot done. The only way to do that is by making the most
out of the allotted 24 hours we all get. Extraordinary people value
their time and see the direct connection between how they spend
their time and their well-being. They are usually always on time
and "train" those that deal with them to respect their schedule by
implementing strict start and end times for meetings.
7. Strong Communicators – People who can communicate effectively
excel in life. Strong communicators understand that just because
people speak English (or the dominant language in your country), it
does not mean they understand each other. What makes them effective
is that they are clear about and sensitive to the outcome they want
to get from their communication and are flexible in their method of
communication to achieve their outcome. They are experts at
building rapport and separate what is being said from the meaning
they put into what is being said.
8. Brave – We’ve all heard the phrase "No risk. No reward." but
how many of us really take the risk necessary to get the reward we
want? Not many but for those who do, they are the ones who make it
and become successful. Successful people have the courage to begin
AND the courage to continue. They are willing to not only bet but
go "all in" on themselves. They are not afraid to burn bridges if
it means moving forward.
9. Givers – Successful people are generous givers. They know and
are convinced of the "secret" that the more you give, the more you
receive as long as you are genuine about your gifts. They operate
on the principle embodied by Zig Ziglar’s quote, "You will get all
you want in life if you help enough other people get what they
want." If you haven’t tapped into this secret, you should get
started right away. Money isn’t the only thing you can give. You
can give time, expertise, space, etc. Look for ways to open doors
for people.
10. High Self-Esteem – Extraordinary people believe they deserve
their success and know that they can do anything they set their
mind to. They understand that a mistake is something that they do
and not who they are. They also monitor the warning signs of low
self-esteem to ensure they always keep a positive self-image of
themselves. They realize that self-esteem is a state of mind and
choosing to have high self-esteem is much more useful than choosing
to have low self-esteem.