Tens of thousands of relationships are haunted every day by this question: Is my bf/gf cheating on me? Before giving you ways to answer this question, it is important to know obsessing and fretting over your bf/gf’s unfaithfulness will put needless pressure on your relationship. It will only cause confusion and mistrust, which could easily destroy what you have.

Here are some signs which individually may not prove your bf/gf is cheating on you. But if you can identify many of these signs in your relationship, the chances are good your bf/gf is cheating on you:

1.You begin to notice emotional distance between the two of you. Things just aren’t the way they used to be.

2.Your instinct tells you he/she is being unfaithful. Deep in your heart of hearts you sense something has gone wrong with your relationship.

3.You begin spending less time together. Your bf/gf tells you he/she doesn’t have the time for you like they used to.

4.The one you love so much stops asking you to go out and do special things together. Somehow your untrustworthy bf/gf just doesn’t have the time for you like before.

5.They suddenly start encouraging you to spend time with other people. Their rationalization is If you spend time with other people, then I can too.

6.There’s a distinct change in his/her schedule. There are huge blocks of time your bf/gf cannot account for. They often make excuses for the extended time of running errands.

7.You notice suspicious computer or cell phone activity like secret texts, emails or strange websites. Many people are caught cheating because of what is on their computers or cell phones.

8.He/she doesn’t answer certain phone calls when you’re around. They look especially panicked when the phone rings.

9.He/she doesn’t talk to you about all their love and deepest feelings anymore. They are probably talking to somebody else about their love and deepest feelings.

10.They appear anxious when you’re together and want to leave, maybe they say they’re just tired. Cheating drains their emotional and physical energy because of fear they’re going to get caught or from spending a lot of their time trying to cover their tracks.

11.You notice a sudden change in their appearance, or they have an increased concern about how they look. Your bf/gf probably has a new reason to look great, and that person is the most likely the one they’re cheating with.

12.He/she hangs around with a new best friend of the opposite sex a lot, or spends time with his/her ex, but claims nothing is happening.

13.He/she begins to be increasingly critical of you, or blames you for cheating, even when you haven’t. This is a way of putting you on the defensive and making them feel better about what they are doing.

The above indicators are all meant to be warning signs. However, don’t turn your relationship into a situation where you feel you have to play detective. But if you notice multiple changes in behavior, routine or personality of the one you feel you love, and not just isolated incidences, you should confront them about these signs. You should always trust first, but don’t ignore red flags. Still, you can’t always trust your “gut feeling.” Sometimes it’s just jealously and insecurity creeping in. If you can’t trust someone over time, don’t date them. Remember, too much drama in your life is very destructive.