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Researches show that cheating doesn't necessarily spell the end of your relationship, especially if you're the one doing the cheating. But why?
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According to a recent study, young Americans are hypocrites when it comes to stepping outside of their relationships.
After analyzing survey answers of more than 8,000 people in opposite-sex relationships, researchers discovered that men and women who have sex with someone other than their partner, and can keep it a secret, will remain in the relationship, but if they find out their partner is doing the same thing, they're more likely to call it quits.
The study, published in Social Science Research, aimed to understand how often infidelity, or extradyadic sex (EDS), occurred among both heterosexual married and co-habiting couples in recent generations.
To do that, the Penn State research team looked at data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent to Adult Health, which followed a group of adolescents in 1994 into their 20s and 30s.
Researchers also wanted to find out if there were any consequential differences between being the cheater and being cheated on. "Knowing that your partner had an outside sexual relationship may not have the same consequences for relationship dissolution as the knowledge that you engaged in EDS" they write.
Overall, a quarter of married or co-habiting respondents said they or their partner, or both, had sex outside of their relationship.
Men were more likely to self-report their EDS, while women were more likely than men to report a partner's.
Researchers also discovered that when comparing the numbers, many have figured out how to effectively cheat on their partners without their knowledge. "Estimates indicate that 10% of women report their own EDS, but close to half as many men (5%) report a partner's EDS" the authors write. "Similarly, 13% of men report their own EDS, but only 8% of women report a partner's EDS."
People seem to prefer to play the cheater over the cheated on.
Ironically, both male and female respondents said staying committed was important for a successful marriage or serious relationship. When asked to rate the importance of fidelity on the success of a marriage or longterm relationship on a scale of 1-10, the average rate reported by women was 9.84, and for men, it was 9.68.
Sexologist Jill McDevitt tells that she's not surprised by the findings. The fact that men were more likely to report engaging in EDS supports what studies on past generations have also concluded, she says.
Also, the idea that a partner's EDS was more likely to be reported as contributing to relationship dissolution "is very much aligned with the actor-observer cognitive bias, in which people attribute other people's behaviors to their character as a person, but their own behaviors to mitigating circumstances," McDevitt explains.
"So, this idea that 'if my partner cheated, it's because they're a terrible person and I can't be with them so the relationship is over,' but 'if I cheat, it's because they weren't available to me, and I was caught up in a moment, and it was one little mistake.'" McDevitt explains.
It's also important to note that the Penn State study doesn't suggest one in four people will cheat.
"Respondents didn't say if they are in open relationships, engage in polyamory, swinging, sexual surrogacy through an illness or sexual dysfunction, or otherwise engaged in consensual extradydadic sex that doesn't constitute cheating or betrayal for that couple," McDevitt says.
2017.05.31 / 16:59